Why?

Why is it that every guy I come in contact with hurts me in some way? I won't put them on blast by saying their name but I'm sure they know who they are. I've had it all from dudes cheating and not saying anything til the girl is pregnant, to cheating with several chicks and not saying anything until the chick says something to me, and the ones that never let go the old but try to get the new too...smh I wish one day they could be real and stop having two sides to them. The secrets are eating me alive and the heartache is finishing me off.